A monk and his disciples were walking down to the river to take bath. There he found a family on the banks shouting at each other in anger.
After seeing this, the monk turned towards his disciples, smiled and asked, “Tell me Why do people Shout at Each other?”
The disciples thought for a while and then one of them said, “it’s because we lose our calm.”
The monk smiled and said, “Why does a person shout at another person who is right next to him? That person can tell the other person he is angry with in soft voice.”
The disciples gave many other answers but not any of these answers could satisfy monk.
When they finished, the monk took a moment and said, “When two people get angry at each other, their Hearts are miles apart. To cover that distance they need to shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the bigger the distance, the louder they have to shout.”
“What happens when people fall in Love? They don’t shout at each other, they talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance is very small.”
Finally the monk said, “When they love each other even more, what happens? They don’t even speak just whisper and when they love even more, they just look at each other and understand. This is how two people are close to each other when they love each other.”
When you argue, don’t let your heart get distant. Don’t say words that create even MORE distance or else one day there will be so much distance that you will not be able to find a path to return.